Thursday, May 6, 2010

REGRETS ARE SO YESTERDAY

WELCOME TO MIDLIFE MEMOS
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #15 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
REGRETS ARE SO YESTERDAY

HOW IRONIC
Even though our short-term memory is playing tricks on us and we can't remember where our keys are hiding or the name of the person we are having dinner with, people and events from long ago are surprisingly clear.

OVERWHELMED
Those long ago experiences comprise a unique scrapbook filled with snapshots of our lives.
As mentioned in previous postings, during the double milestone® we are bombarded with 'couldas', 'shouldas' and 'wouldas'.
Often a dose of the 'if onlys' is added to these unbidden and unwelcome blasts from the past.

EVENTUALLY
We finally let go (perhaps with help) of past hurts.
The regrets ease as we free ourselves of mistakes and missteps.
Some can be easily released.
Others have to be mourned and grieved as we acknowledge most, if not all, mistakes cannot be reversed.
Nor can we travel that long ago road not taken.

BUT...SOMETHING WONDERFUL!
We can look forward to the remainder of our lives and proclaim (loudly):
"Regrets are so yesterday"
or more specifically stated:
"From here on - NO MORE REGRETS!

FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Obviously, we are not perfect (ok, you may be, but definitely, I am not).
Although our intention is to have no more regrets, realistically we can expect to add a few more poor choices and mistakes to our collection.
That's life; that's being human.
The Swamp Goddess Goal - we keep poor choices and mistakes to a minimum, quickly release them and move on.

UNHOMEWORK
Spend time contemplating the meaning of : 'No More Regrets'.
Do you believe it is actually possible to live the remainder of your life with no regrets? Why? Why not?
How would you go about implementing a 'No More Regrets' policy?

NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
No More Regrets - Really!
"... Is it possible to live our lives with no regrets? Of course it is, especially considering..."

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