Thursday, May 27, 2010

OUR MOST PRECIOUS COMMODITY

WELCOME TO MIDLIFE MEMOS
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #18 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
OUR MOST PRECIOUS COMMODITY

CHECKING IN
Hopefully at this point in our Midlife Memos online course you are contemplating the Swamp Goddess lifestyle, starting to view life through freshly minted Swamp Goddess lenses and considering some important changes.
Or:
You are waiting. OK, go at your own pace. No pressure.

LOOKING, LOOKING - OH, THERE IT IS!
When you look through your Swamp Goddess lens, what are your 'seeing'?
My view was quite amazing and somewhat unsettling.
I 'saw' my most precious double milestone® commodity is TIME.
After all, let's get real.
How old are we at the double milestone? Yikes!
Reality is not morbid. We don't have to be in denial.
You may have heard that ignorance is bliss - No!
Knowledge is power - Yes!

WHAT A WASTE
I used basic math to calculate years lived, years left (hopefully) as inspiration. It helped.
I was compelled to admit that in my pre Swamp Goddess life, not only did I squander my time, also I disregarded its importance by freely giving it to people I did not want to be with and doing things I did not want to do.

WOW!
How did that happen?
Do you do this? Do you have difficulty saying 'no'?
This realization was a powerful demonstration of how, in my pre Swamp Goddess days, I did not claim ownership of my life.
What about you?

CHANGES
Very quickly (and rather easily) I initiated many changes, most notably how and with whom I spend my time.
Are you ready to initiate changes related to what you 'see' through your Swamp Goddess lens?
Details, please.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Ultimately, other life changes follow - all for the better.
And most importantly, with no regrets - an essential Swamp Goddess bonus.

UNHOMEWORK
Look through your freshly minted Swamp Goddess lens.
What do you 'see' as your most precious commodity?
Is it time? Something else?
List specific life changes you want to make
- short term changes
- long term changes
What will facilitate making changes?
What will impede making changes?

MORE FOOD FOR THOUGHT
The answers to these questions will help guide your journey through the double milestone.
At first, you may be undecided, unsure and unclear.
If so, start by focusing your thoughts.
Ooops! Did I really recommend 'focusing'?
What I should have recommended is 'double milestone focusing' - whatever version is working today.

REALITY CHECK
You actually know the changes you want.
In fact, you've known for a while.

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