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THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG # 17 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
CHA CHA CHANGES
How often do you blurt out - 'What's going on'?
Some days it's 3, 33, or even 103 times.
So, what is going on?
At this point, do you even have to ask?
It's the double milestone® of menopause and midlife. Yeah, that again!
THE TIMES THEY ARE A-CHANGING
Milestones act as catalysts for change.
Don't they seem to be fueled by special super powers during the double milestone? Whew!
Whether quickly and chaotically or slowly and methodically - they come.
Both internally and externally - they come.
Some we welcome, others we dread - still they come.
Many of the changes are expected; more than a few are not.
CHANGE BY DEFAULT
Some (perhaps many) of our previous changes came as a result of someone else's decision or due to circumstances beyond our control, e.g.:
- your partner left or died
- you lost your job
- what are the important changes in your life that were initiated by other people or situations (not you)?
PROACTIVE VS. REACTIVE
There is no choice and no control when we have to change by default.
Been there, done that. Time for something new.
Let's be proactive.
Swamp Goddesses believe as long as the double milestone changes are coming (or already have arrived), wouldn't it be terrific if we use them to finally live life on our terms, i.e. do what we want, with whom we want...
In other words - own our lives
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
The double milestone changes to expect:
- you will change your perspective on many, if not all, aspects of your life, particularly your relationships with others, and most importantly, with yourself.
It is wonderful (more often than not).
We'll prepare together. Upcoming posts will focus on relationships - the changes and our choices.
Taking ownership of your life by actively making choices that please /suit you.
What does that look like?
Describe at least 3 choices that will please/suit you.
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