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THE SWAMP GODDESS®GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #10 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
BUT WHAT EXACTLY IS A SWAMP GODDESS?
The Swamp Goddess persona is a strategy designed to unlock our inner wisdom, assess and, if necessary, change patterns of behavior.
When we conduct our Life Review at age 95, we can triumphantly exclaim 'No Regrets"!
Identify what we want
Let go of what we don't
Know the difference
WE HAVE TRIED
We have read zillions of self-help books, watched and listened to endless talk shows advising us on ways to live our best lives by loving, respecting, taking care of ourselves, yada, yada, yada... ad nauseum.
For too many of us, these books and shows have not eliminated the feelings of guilt, even selfishness, that surface if we choose what we want, rather than what others want of us.
Lots of double milestone®women are still struggling to identify precisely what we want. We just don't know.
Or, we do know, but are frozen with fear of what change will bring.
Why keep repeating the same behaviors over and over again and then expect, hope, even plead for different results?
It's time for a new strategy.
ISN'T IT AMAZING
Countless women do not live our lives as if we actually love, respect and take care of ourselves. BUT, we are very adept at loving, respecting and taking care of others.
The double milestone is the perfect time to finally go after what we want.
Stay tuned as the Swamp Goddess journey unfolds.
BY THE WAY
A number of you may jump right in and quickly adopt The Swamp Goddess persona.
Others will be a bit more cautious and take things slowly.
Whatever way you go - just go.
Begin by making a commitment to yourself.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Some of us may interpret being kind to ourselves as being unkind to others. No!
A few may worry that taking care of ourselves is being selfish and neglectful of others. No!
Adopting The Swamp Goddess lifestyle does not mean we become cruel or hurtful to others.
In fact, it is quite the opposite.
It means we stop being cruel, hurtful and neglectful to ourselves.
Imagine viewing your life through freshly minted Swamp Goddess glasses.
List specific changes you want to make.
- Short term - (how short is short?)
- Long term - (how long is long?)
What obstacles and/or fears hold you back from making changes NOW?
And, of course, the well known question - If not now, when?
NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
Adopting The Swamp Goddess Lifestyle
Some of you are so over the whole goddess thing. I know, I was also until...
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