WELCOME TO MIDLIFE MEMOS
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #88 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP WAITING
Has this happened to you?
You have given generously to a friend during her bad/low/down times.
Then, something goes wrong in your life. You turn to your friend, but ...
all she offers are excuses, excuses, and - what a surprise - more excuses for
her inability to be there for you.
At this point in life, we understand that true reciprocity occurs over the
life of a relationship.
Every one of us has good/ bad times, highs/ lows, ups/ downs.
~ Be grateful if you have more joy than despair.
~ Appreciate if you share it all with quality friends.
~ Acknowledge some friends rather take than give.
~ Are you ready to stop waiting for the takers to become givers?
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Double milestone friendship frenzy heats up when we realize one (or more)
of our relationships has not been, nor will never be, reciprocal.
List the friends you can count on to reciprocate your generosity.
List the friends who are full of excuses explaining why you cannot count on them.
List the excuses you believe; accept. Why?
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You know when it's reciprocal ... ?
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