THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #58 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
ENCOUNTER WITH MIDLIFE NON-FRIENDS
We ended a friendship.
It was a clean break.
But, hurt and angry feelings linger.
We have not spoken to our new non-friend since the break-up.
Nor have we seen each other.
We both have been invited to attend an event.
It is an important occasion.
What do non-friends do?
*Is it wise for new non-friends to attend the same event?
*Can ex-friends avoid an uncomfortable encounter?
*Are you able to act festive (even if you're upset) and not ruin the event for others?
In other words,
*Can I be civil to my ex-friend? Can I expect my ex-friend to be civil to me?
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Most of our friendships are not isolated relationships.
We have mutual friends, shared activities, and entangled alliances.
The first post-breakup encounter is always awkward.
Be cordial by saying, 'hello.'
Then move on.
No further conversation is necessary.
What will you do in this situation?
1. Will you attend the event?
If so, what will you say or do when seeing your non-friend?
2. Will you refuse to attend the event?
If so, at what cost? What are you giving up by avoiding your non-friend?
NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
... our new non-friendships affect ...
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