ARE YOUR MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP EXPECTATIONS REALISTIC?

WELCOME TO MIDLIFE MEMOS
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
Blog # 78 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D
ARE YOUR MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP EXPECTATIONS REALISTIC?

How do we know if what we expect from friends is 'realistic?'

First things first.
What are 'realistic' expectations?
Is there a universal definition for 'realistic?'
No, not exactly.
Essentially, 'realistic' is an individual perception.

Ok, but the question is still - how do we determine if our expectations are 'realistic?'
Simple. We discuss what we want and need with each one of our friends.
And - we listen (and hear) what our friends want and need from us.
In other words, what is 'realistic' is determined between your friends and you.

Now for the complicating factor - The Double Milestone.
As we journey through menopausal mayhem and aging angst, we change; our expectations change. Relationships are affected by these changes.
Therefore, we need to keep talking to our friends.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Communication is necessary during the double milestone.
Let your friends know how your expectations have changed.
And, of course, be prepared for their changed expectations

UNHOMEWORK
What do you currently expect from your friends?
Is there one must-have? Name it?
Are there more than one must-haves? List them.
EXTRA CREDIT
Prioritize your must-haves.

NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
The next step - midlife friendship requirements ...

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MIDLIFE GRATITUDE AND THANKSGIVING

WELCOME TO MIDLIFE MEMOS
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #74 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
MIDLIFE GRATITUDE AND THANKSGIVING

Thanksgiving is a wonderful kick-off to the holiday season.
It gives us an opportunity - before the festivities begin - to set aside time for
expressing gratitude.

How do we express gratitude?
Is there a special way? a perfect way? No and no.
The strategy is to focus on positives.
If you think you have nothing to be grateful for, think again.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Practicing gratitude is powerful.
If you turn this into a daily practice, it is life-changing.

UNHOMEWORK
*Introductory gratitude practice
~ Get started now.
~ Choose  - either when first waking up or before falling asleep.
~ Begin with one: Select one aspect of your life - be specific - for which you feel grateful.
~ Simply state - "I am grateful for ...."
~ With time, add more items to your gratitude list.

*Advance your practice. Stay tuned for details ...

HELPFUL HINTS
Midlife Memos is posted weekly.
If you click on 'followers' or 'subscribe,' you will automatically receive each new one.
Or
Just come back to www.midlifememos.com

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CONTACT INFORMATION
Email:          drwendykyman@gmail.com
Facebook:    www.facebook.com/drwendykyman
Twitter:        www.twitter.com/@drwendykyman

TO READ PREVIOUS POSTS
To the right, under BLOG ARCHIVES, click '2010' '2011' '2012.'
Keep scrolling all the way to read any, or all, the earlier Midlife Memos, especially
'The Birth of Swamp Goddess.' I bet you will relate.